Last week when I was checking my Statcounter (yes, I check to see who is visiting my blog and I can see when they check several times a day for new content), I discovered I was getting traffic from a website called Get Off My Internets.
It turns out that someone that goes by the handle iovershare had made a forum post about me.
iovershare has been reading my blog for many years. She first started when I was posting the excerpts from my high school diaries. She loved those and kept me in her reader but now I’m starting to bug her.
I know what you’re thinking because I thought it too. Why would my dear friend Lovershare keep reading my blog if my ramblings about PTA, Kindergarten Field Day and my LIFE make her irritated enough to talk shit about me on a message board.
I’m as baffled as you are!
Here’s what else puzzles me. She is irritated that I’ve posted about my encounters with moms at school, the illness of our teacher and issues with my family and my in laws. She thinks my only friends are other PTA moms and that I’m crazy and lack social skills. Oh....and that I excessively toot my own horn.
Is my blog the only one she’s ever read? Most of the people that are posting on this forum are irritated at the people that ONLY post the good stuff. Their lives are rainbows and unicorns.
I blog about my life. The good, the bad and the ugly. Heck, I even have a blog where I post how much I weigh! I am real and honest.
If I gush a bit when things are going well....it’s only because I am so grateful. Twelve years ago this week, I escaped from my old life. You heard me, I escaped! There was a time when I didn’t think I would live through that life. It was very dark, ugly and I didn't see a way out.
I moved to Denver with the contents of my Ford Escort and I started over; just weeks before my 30th birthday. Completely from scratch. Do you know what you can fit inside a two-door car? Not much! I worked really hard to start a new life and a few years later, everything I ever hoped for started happening to me.
I never thought I’d find a good man, own a house, buy a new car or ever have kids.
If I seem like I’m a little too happy about being in the PTA, making new friends and planning a kick ass field day, well....iovershare, you’re right. Because I never thought these things would happen for me. My life is good right now, I have very little to complain about. My marriage is good, my kids are happy, my Dad is sober and I'm getting along well with my in laws. I have some really great friends and a couple of them aren't even IN the PTA.
And if that makes you irritated or it bugs you...then get the f*ck out.
Some people are unbelievable!!! Lovershare needs to mind her own business and get a life. I appreciate your honest and humorous writing and if a personal blog is not a place you can share joy and give thanks, then many bloggers (myself included) have missed the memo. Keep on doing what your doing because it is loved by many (including your friends not in PTA)
I always think haters are funny. They actually drive traffic to your site. Sort of like those ding-a-lings that didn't like your Santa/Elf post that got featured on Blogher last year.
I will never understand why people read blogs they don't like... and then complain about them. I just don't have enough time in my day to focus on things that annoy me. You know? I choose to spend my time with people I like, and I like you. Even if you are in the PTA. And are a republican. ;)
People don't realize what it is like to write a blog. Everytime you write something about your life (good, bad, or ugly) you are putting yourself out there for criticism. It's a risk. That should garner some respect, right? People like Lovershare confuse me. If you don't like a blog stop reading it! If you disagree about something leave a polite and respectful comment in the comment section. It's easy!
I would thankfully hand off some of the thousand things that I have to get done to Lovershare and her cronies, because clearly they have too much time on their hands...what's that saying, idle hands are the devil's plaything? Something like that. Of course, I'd get more done if I didn't concern myself with celebrity gossip so much :D
What the hell?!? I seriously don't understand the haters - why they read if it's annoying them, why they bother to complain about it, why they think they have any right. GAH!!! Love your response to dear "Lovershare". Go you.
Wow- can I just say - BRAVO!!!! ;-) Lady, you are amazing and yes, haters be damned. I love your blog BTW and love that is real. I am trying to emulate that in my blog. Blogging for me in 2003 started as a way to get my thoughts on paper- an electronic journal and come on now, if you can't be honest why even bother? For you hater out there, and in the words of Charlie Brown, "GOOD GRIEF!"
I've seen that site. I've read it. I vowed to never go back because people who get off on slamming and snickering at the choices of other people do it to avoid examining their own lives. It's diversion.
I don't respect that.
But I respect you enormously and even more so now.
You've made the big time! I wonder if you should send a bouquet to loveshare for pushing you into the big leagues, the Noticed-Enough-To-Have-Haters. SOMEBODY IS ENTHRALLED ENOUGH WITH YOU TO GIVE YOU A BUNCH OF HER TIME reading and dissing.
Methinks there is uber-jealousy behind her fascination with you.
What a bitch!! She is totally jealous of you. That's all it is. So you keep making her jealous and maybe she'll keep driving traffic to your amazing blog!!!! xoxo
I am so jealous! You have a stalker?! AND it is driving traffic to your blog? It's a good day :) I happen to know that you have a lot of friends who aren't in the PTA, including me!
AMEN. It's tough to be thick-skinned when people write mean, hateful things, particularly about non-controversial issues. A good friend of mine lost her baby to SIDS and gets the most hateful comments about what a bad mom she is. Best to just count your blessings and not stoop to their level--there's obviously something amiss in their unhappy lives to feel the need to post such things.
This is pretty comical. First of all, it's your own blog - if you only want to post rainbows and unicorns, that's your right. You're not forcing anyone to read. That's the funny part. The sad part is, instead of just taking you out of her reader, she posts about you. Idiot.
This is pretty comical. First of all, it's your own blog - if you only want to post rainbows and unicorns, that's your right. You're not forcing anyone to read. That's the funny part. The sad part is, instead of just taking you out of her reader, she posts about you. Idiot. All is not lost though - at least she is generating more traffic to your blog! ;o)
Kudos to you for calling this bat shit crazy blogger out!
Please let me know if she comments, I'm curious to know if her balls are big enough! You can let me know by texting me because you have my number...because WE'RE FRIENDS!!!
I always say that having an "enemy" only signifies one thing - you aren't boring. Boring people don't have enemies. ;)
The Internet is an exercise in a) growing a thicker skin, b) realizing that there are some types of crazy it's better not to understand, lest you join their ranks. I don't know why people feel the need to stalk/harass/complain about bloggers, but I think I'm okay with not knowing now.
Wow- I can't, well I can, believe there is even a site for that? Are people really so insecure in themselves that they take the time to right forums about people who bug them?? Wow. And yes, you should be very proud of the life you have worked really hard for and you are a great real blogger
Well said sista, screw the haters. Do you, and you do it well I must say. I guess there will always be haters...sad pathetic people.
ReplyDeleteThere will. It really is sad.
DeleteSome people are unbelievable!!! Lovershare needs to mind her own business and get a life. I appreciate your honest and humorous writing and if a personal blog is not a place you can share joy and give thanks, then many bloggers (myself included) have missed the memo. Keep on doing what your doing because it is loved by many (including your friends not in PTA)
ReplyDeleteI think you just defined *blogging*.
DeleteI love you Momma - I loved you BEFORE you joined the PTA and I will love you after.
ReplyDeleteI just wanna be more like YOU!
DeleteWow, some people need a life of their own. We love the real honest you!
ReplyDeleteThank you Melissa!
DeleteI always think haters are funny. They actually drive traffic to your site. Sort of like those ding-a-lings that didn't like your Santa/Elf post that got featured on Blogher last year.
ReplyDeleteGreat post!
YES!! Exactly! I actually got a few new readers out of that one.
DeleteI will never understand why people read blogs they don't like... and then complain about them. I just don't have enough time in my day to focus on things that annoy me. You know? I choose to spend my time with people I like, and I like you. Even if you are in the PTA. And are a republican. ;)
ReplyDeletePeople don't realize what it is like to write a blog. Everytime you write something about your life (good, bad, or ugly) you are putting yourself out there for criticism. It's a risk. That should garner some respect, right? People like Lovershare confuse me. If you don't like a blog stop reading it! If you disagree about something leave a polite and respectful comment in the comment section. It's easy!
ReplyDeleteOk, what they hell is wrong with that person. Her life must be really bad that she has to attack you.
ReplyDeleteI just understand why people have to be mean. If you don't like something... don't read it.
I would thankfully hand off some of the thousand things that I have to get done to Lovershare and her cronies, because clearly they have too much time on their hands...what's that saying, idle hands are the devil's plaything? Something like that. Of course, I'd get more done if I didn't concern myself with celebrity gossip so much :D
ReplyDeleteWhat the hell?!? I seriously don't understand the haters - why they read if it's annoying them, why they bother to complain about it, why they think they have any right. GAH!!! Love your response to dear "Lovershare".
ReplyDeleteGo you.
Wow- can I just say - BRAVO!!!! ;-) Lady, you are amazing and yes, haters be damned. I love your blog BTW and love that is real. I am trying to emulate that in my blog. Blogging for me in 2003 started as a way to get my thoughts on paper- an electronic journal and come on now, if you can't be honest why even bother? For you hater out there, and in the words of Charlie Brown, "GOOD GRIEF!"
ReplyDeleteI've seen that site. I've read it. I vowed to never go back because people who get off on slamming and snickering at the choices of other people do it to avoid examining their own lives. It's diversion.
ReplyDeleteI don't respect that.
But I respect you enormously and even more so now.
You've made the big time! I wonder if you should send a bouquet to loveshare for pushing you into the big leagues, the Noticed-Enough-To-Have-Haters. SOMEBODY IS ENTHRALLED ENOUGH WITH YOU TO GIVE YOU A BUNCH OF HER TIME reading and dissing.
ReplyDeleteMethinks there is uber-jealousy behind her fascination with you.
Congrats!
What a bitch!! She is totally jealous of you. That's all it is. So you keep making her jealous and maybe she'll keep driving traffic to your amazing blog!!!! xoxo
ReplyDeletepreach it, sister.
ReplyDeleteI wonder if she'll have the nerve to comment to your face?
I'm guessing she won't have the nerve to come out of the closet and comment to your face.
ReplyDeleteI am so jealous! You have a stalker?! AND it is driving traffic to your blog? It's a good day :) I happen to know that you have a lot of friends who aren't in the PTA, including me!
ReplyDeletein the words of the wise "haters are my motivators" screw them and keep being your fabulous self
ReplyDeleteAMEN. It's tough to be thick-skinned when people write mean, hateful things, particularly about non-controversial issues. A good friend of mine lost her baby to SIDS and gets the most hateful comments about what a bad mom she is. Best to just count your blessings and not stoop to their level--there's obviously something amiss in their unhappy lives to feel the need to post such things.
ReplyDeleteYOU are my hero. And I love hearing about you and what you do and where you go and well, iKeith. I kinda love iKeith.
ReplyDeleteThat's kinda creepy-stalker-ish. Reads you then goes off on her own and writes about you?
Damn, girl. You're a celebrity. =)
This is pretty comical. First of all, it's your own blog - if you only want to post rainbows and unicorns, that's your right. You're not forcing anyone to read. That's the funny part. The sad part is, instead of just taking you out of her reader, she posts about you. Idiot.
ReplyDeleteThis is pretty comical. First of all, it's your own blog - if you only want to post rainbows and unicorns, that's your right. You're not forcing anyone to read. That's the funny part. The sad part is, instead of just taking you out of her reader, she posts about you. Idiot. All is not lost though - at least she is generating more traffic to your blog! ;o)
ReplyDeleteUMMM....that's kind of weird....you have a scary stalker-hater who posts about you.....*strange*
ReplyDeleteBut don't worry....you are in good company because I am a freak magnet, too! :/
Kudos to you for calling this bat shit crazy blogger out!
ReplyDeletePlease let me know if she comments, I'm curious to know if her balls are big enough! You can let me know by texting me because you have my number...because WE'RE FRIENDS!!!
I always say that having an "enemy" only signifies one thing - you aren't boring. Boring people don't have enemies. ;)
ReplyDeleteThe Internet is an exercise in a) growing a thicker skin, b) realizing that there are some types of crazy it's better not to understand, lest you join their ranks. I don't know why people feel the need to stalk/harass/complain about bloggers, but I think I'm okay with not knowing now.
Wow- I can't, well I can, believe there is even a site for that? Are people really so insecure in themselves that they take the time to right forums about people who bug them?? Wow. And yes, you should be very proud of the life you have worked really hard for and you are a great real blogger
ReplyDeleteGood for you... don't let the bitches get you down!
ReplyDeleteHUGGLES!
What the hell is wrong with some people!
ReplyDelete